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I had a very difficult Mother’s Day and had to leave the house

Mother’s Day was approaching fast, and my partner and I had plans to celebrate with his family at his grandparents’ house. I was excited to spend time with his family, but I knew his mother’s behavior could sometimes be difficult.

When we arrived at their house, everything seemed fine at first. But then, his mother began to make insulting jokes directed towards me. It wasn’t long before she brought up my partner’s father. He was an aggressive alcoholic who had caused my partner a great deal of pain over the years. On Christmas, he had screamed at him, telling him that he hated him, before kicking chairs, his dog, and even pushing me when I tried to check on the dog.

It was clear that my partner’s father was not a good person, and we had made the decision to cut him off completely. However, my partner’s mother still received a picture of flowers from his father on Mother’s Day. Despite my partner asking her to ignore it, she insisted on texting him back and trying to make everyone get along. We were worried because we knew that if his father came back into their lives, it would only lead to more problems.

I tried to express my concerns to my partner’s mother about his father being an abuser and how it was affecting my partner’s mental health. However, she didn’t seem to take it seriously and insisted that we needed to talk about it more. I respected her wishes, and when his grandmother interrupted the conversation, I stopped talking about it.

But then, my partner’s mother approached me again, insisting that we needed to discuss the topic further and that I should stop saying such hurtful things. I was hurt by her words and didn’t want to talk to her anymore, so I left and told her that I couldn’t talk to her right now.

My partner understood why I left and told me that it was okay if I didn’t want to stay. His mother, however, kept insisting on the topic to the point where he had an anxiety attack and had to call me. She left before dinner, but he decided to stay and dine with his grandparents.

Later on, his mother called me and started screaming into the phone, telling me that I was terrible and that their marriage was none of my business. I was shocked and hurt by her response and didn’t know how to respond.

Overall, it was a difficult Mother’s Day, and the situation with my partner’s father and his mother’s insistence on talking about it had caused a lot of tension and anxiety for us both. We knew that we needed to set boundaries and protect our mental health going forward. Family can be complicated, and it’s important to prioritize our own well-being.

It was a reminder that sometimes it’s necessary to make difficult decisions to protect ourselves and our loved ones. While we can’t always control the actions of others, we can control how we respond to them. We have to take care of ourselves and those closest to us, even if it means setting boundaries with family members who don’t respect them.

In the end, we learned that it’s important to communicate our needs and feelings to each other and to work together to create a safe and healthy environment for ourselves and our loved ones. It may not always be easy, but it’s always worth it.