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My father confessed his infidelity after months of hiding it during therapy. Now, we have to rebuild our lives.

Growing up, I always believed that my parents’ bond was unbreakable, considering the hardships they endured as immigrants in Europe. However, everything took an unexpected turn this January when we discovered my father’s infidelity.

Out of the blue, my father expressed his unhappiness to my mother and proposed a living arrangement where he would move out during the week and return home on weekends. This revelation shocked us all since he had never shown any signs of dissatisfaction before. My mother suggested therapy as a means to work through their issues and salvage their relationship, but my father remained adamant about his decision.

The ensuing months were incredibly difficult for our family. We attempted to maintain a semblance of normalcy for two days before my father would retreat to “his place” again. Given that I was often away for studies or visiting my long-distance boyfriend, I tried to minimize my interactions with my father as much as possible.

Finally, this week, they started attending couple’s therapy. It was during one of these sessions, under immense pressure from the therapist, that my father reluctantly admitted to having someone else in his life, admitting to infidelity. He provided no details about the duration of the affair or the identity of the person involved. What struck me the most was his lack of remorse about his infidelity, as he seemed to shift the blame onto my mother. Understandably, my mother and younger brother, who has autism, were devastated by this revelation.

Yesterday, my father left our home and is returning today to gather his belongings. This situation is further complicated by the fact that my parents share debts and a joint business. Additionally, my father has been channeling all funds into a company account for tax purposes, which means my mother’s future pension will be significantly diminished. The financial implications are daunting, to say the least.

As the eldest child, I feel a sense of responsibility to support my mother in any way I can. However, I also have plans to work abroad during the summer and move out in September. The guilt of not being physically present for my mother weighs heavily on me. Yet, I am aware that my mother has been caring for her own parents for the past two decades and understands firsthand the challenges and emotional toll it takes.

I am at a loss regarding the best course of action. I am shocked at the infidelity. I want to pursue my own life and aspirations, but I also want to be there for my mother and brother. Complicating matters further is the fact that we have no extended family in the vicinity.

In summary, my father’s infidelity has thrust our family into a tumultuous situation, leaving us to navigate the financial and emotional repercussions with uncertainty.

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