To give some context, I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, we have a 6-year-old daughter and another daughter on the way. My relationship with my mother-in-law has been rocky, with both of us having our fair share of blame.
When my oldest daughter was born, my mother-in-law came to help, but her idea of help was sitting on the couch playing on her phone while bossing my husband around. I lost my temper and it escalated into a physical altercation. Since then, we’ve tried to improve our relationship, but she still meddles in our lives, demanding personal details and reminding my husband of how she raised him alone.
During this pregnancy, we moved across the country, keeping it a secret until the 5.5-month mark. When we finally announced it, she reacted poorly and made uncomfortable comments at my daughter’s birthday party. Her behavior has been grating on me, and I’ve distanced myself from her.
Recently, she called my husband and announced that she had booked a flight to stay with us two weeks before my due date, planning to stay until the baby is born. I immediately rejected the idea, explaining that our house is too small and my induction is scheduled for the same day as her flight. She then revealed she had major cosmetic dental surgery scheduled the day after my induction and asked when my husband would come to help her. He firmly declined and said he wouldn’t be able to visit until later with the baby.
Today, she texted me, asking what I needed for the baby. I told her I didn’t really need anything as I had already made all the necessary purchases. Her response was condescending, implying I wasn’t prepared despite being at 34 weeks. I didn’t respond and shared the conversation with my husband.
Honestly, I don’t want her near me or the new baby until the holidays. Maybe I’m being whiney, but that’s how I feel.