My future mother-in-law (FMIL) currently lives with her in-laws after my fiancé’s younger brother (FBIL), who is 15 years old, got caught up in some troubling activities. I won’t go into the specifics, but one incident involved him breaking into our house with a friend while we were away. This caused quite a panic, and his parents swiftly decided to move out of town and into her in-laws’ house.
Frankly, it was not a wise move on her part, considering their low income and the fact that they were living in a subsidized apartment complex. Now they have to wait for another subsidized apartment to become available or try to purchase a house, which they are currently attempting. To make matters worse, her relationship with her in-laws is strained, to say the least.
Well, recently, she had a heated argument with her husband and called my fiancé to ask if she could stay with us. He agreed without even consulting me. I found out that she was coming to spend the night. The problem is, we live in a small trailer with three cats, and the total living space is less than 400 square feet. I knew it was going to be miserable.
After a nine-hour shift, all I wanted was to get some rest. Unfortunately, I didn’t think much of it because I was just mentally drained. My fiancé attempted to apologize, but at this point, I’m accustomed to such situations. This is the third time she has done this, although previously she never stayed more than one night. This time, however, she mentioned staying for at least the entire weekend.
To make matters even more challenging, she arrived with her son. Now we have four people and three cats crammed into less than 400 square feet. I have to work seven days this week, and it’s also the time for my final exams. I simply don’t have the energy to deal with all of this. When I woke up this morning, she had made herself completely at home. She cleaned my entire house, rummaged through our bedroom, even going under the bed to “do laundry.” She added her bathroom utensils to our bathroom, taking up an entire shelf and clearing out the towels. She even placed a small decoration on the sink. She rearranged my kitchen and went through the fridge, adding all her groceries. And now she’s talking about rearranging everything else, and I’m furious.
My fiancé attempted to say something, but he knows that she gets easily agitated, especially considering she has borderline personality disorder (BPD). He keeps apologizing and even mentioned that if a girl kicked his mother out, he would understand. I’m left wondering why I even have to ask him in the first place. Surely, this behavior is not typical for a houseguest, right? I can’t be the only one who finds this situation abnormal, can I?